Jake Ernst

Jake Ernst

Therapist

Appears in 129 Episodes

Have we lost our sense of play?

This Isn't Therapy... but we are tackling life's important questions: have we lost our sense of play? In this episode, Jake and Simon dig deep into a #LovelyListener s...

Bullying with boundaries

This Isn't Therapy... this is the long-awaited follow-up to our episodes about boundaries. In this episode, Jake and Simon talk about being a boundary bully and using ...

Parenting your partner

This Isn't Therapy... this is a conversation about becoming the stand-in parent for the people around you. Are you the one always making the plans? Do find yourself sa...

Phubbing 🤳🏼

This Isn’t Therapy… it’s a discussion about “phubbing”— the act of snubbing someone with your phone. In this episode, Jake and Simon talk about phone use and how it im...

FOMO

This Isn't Therapy... it’s the episode about the common fear of missing out, otherwise known as FOMO. In this episode, Jake and Simon talk about FOMO through the lens ...

Help! My therapist broke up with me...

This Isn't Therapy... it’s the episode about being broken up with by a therapist. In this episode, Jake and Simon read two stories, one submitted to the Reddit r/AskAT...

A couple living in denial

This Isn't Therapy... it’s the episode about being in denial. I’m not in denial, you are! In this episode, Jake and Simon unpack this common psychological defence mech...

Hot takes, problem spotting, and faking expertise

This Isn't Therapy... it’s a conversation about problem spotting, hot take culture, the loss of expertise, and the pressure to have an opinion about everything. Get re...

People Pleasing

This Isn't Therapy...this is a conversation about people pleasing. Through two #lovelylistener stories, Jake and Simon explore the root of people pleasing - where the ...

Worrying about the future

This Isn't Therapy...this is a casual Kelly conversation about the future and ALL our collective worries. Climate change? Finances? Relationships? Oh boy. So much to h...

Finding hope in hopeless times

This Isn't Therapy... it's the episode about finding hope in hopeless times. Forest fires, anti-LGBTQ bills, collective pain, and existential dread. In this episode, J...

Building community

This Isn't Therapy... it's the episode about finding your people, finding your place, and building community. In this episode, Jake and Simon read two submissions by t...

🎶 I’m coming out! 🎶

This Isn't Therapy... it’s the episode about coming out! In this episode, Jake and Simon come clean about coming out as they chat about some scenes and quotations from...

Adapting to difference

This Isn't Therapy...this is a fun, flirty convo about adapting to scenarios while keeping your values in check (*DING*). On this episode of the pod, Jake and Simon di...

How to be yourself

This isn't therapy... it's an episode about authenticity, being yourself, and knowing who you are. In this episode, Jake guides Simon through an ~authenticity exercise...

Is the fly-on-the-wall therapy genre unhealthy voyeurism?

This isn't therapy... it's some straight up real talk about depictions of therapy in popular media. Simon, a filmmaker, and Jake, a therapist, talk about the emerging ...

The Matrix of Grief

This isn't therapy... it's an episode about complex experience of grief and loss. Jake and Simon read two stories from the Lovely Listener. They add some nuance to the...

Coping with humor 🤡

This Isn't Therapy... it's the grand opening of the Ha-Ha Chuckle Hut! Just kidding. It's the conversation about deflecting and coping with humor. In this week's episo...

Feeling content with life

This Isn't Therapy...this is a conversation about slowing down, baby. How do you know when things are good? How do you embrace feeling content with where you're at? Re...

"Doing isn't being."

This Isn't Therapy... it's the follow-up to last week's convo about thinking vs. doing. This week, we're talking about doing vs. being-- another paradox we are made to...

“Thinking isn’t doing.”

This Isn't Therapy... it’s an episode about thinking, over-thinking, and sorting through seas of misinformation online. In segment one, Jake and Simon discuss findings...

Taking The Mental Health of Boys Seriously

This Isn't Therapy...this is a conversation about the mental health of boys. Declining graduation rates, decreasing sperm counts and testosterone levels, and fewer clo...

Therapy taught me...

This isn't therapy... it's the episode about therapy breakthroughs. The therapeutic "aha!" is known to many as the nugget of therapy gold that taught us something new,...

The rise in therapy language

This Isn't Therapy...but this is an episode about the overuse of therapy language and the impact its having on our relationships. Gaslighting? Triggered? Trauma-bondin...

Self-Diagnosis: Is it valid?

This isn't therapy... it's the episode about self-diagnosis. In this episode, Jake and Simon pull back the curtain on diagnosis and ask if we can truly give ourselves ...

How loneliness reshapes the brain

This Isn't Therapy... it's the long-overdue conversation about the crisis of connection and loneliness. In this episode, Jake and Simon talk about a recent study which...

The Future of Therapy (AI, VR, & Web 3.0)

This Isn't Therapy...this is a prediction episode about the future of therapy. In this episode, Jake and Simon talk about how Artificial Intelligence (AI), Virtual Rea...

What are my needs? (Part 2)

This Isn't Therapy...this is a (part 2) fun, flirty, fabulous convo about our needs! If you haven't listened to part one yet, what are you doing?! Go listen and then c...

What are my needs? (Part 1)

This Isn't Therapy...this is a (part 1) conversation about our needs - what are they? Why is everyone talking about them? And how do you know if your needs are being m...

Dating apps, hook up culture and situationships

This isn't therapy, baby, it's a conversation about dating and modern relationship expectations. In this episode, Jake and Simon talk about hook up culture and the cur...

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